Thursday, September 17, 2015

The Donors

So, the first thing I did, was to call our fertility clinic.

"Whats the story with donors now?"
"Well, we actually have three in the works at the moment!"
"Really!?  Oh my god! I can't believe it!"

And then the stories of them all came out.

The first donor 

She was overseas and ended up extending her stay

The second donor

She had come to the clinic through another patient.  However, before the lady who found her could start a round with this donor, she had to use her last embryo from her previous donor.  This was a success and she was pregnant!

Her new donor then volunteered to donate to another couple until the first woman had delivered and was ready to try for her second.  There was plenty of time for the donor to go through a round with another couple and she was keen to donate to someone else.

However...  the first lady was so distraught and upset and didn't want her new donor donating to anyone else.  "What if something goes wrong?  Then you won't be there for me.  You need to be there for me."
Okay, so we will wait until your pregnancy is well and truly stable.
Then it was "But I want you there as soon as I have delivered.  I want to get started on trying for a second baby straight away.  And what if you do a round with someone else and then decide you don't want to do it again?"

The donor decide to wait as she didn't want this lady being so distraught while she was pregnant.

Eventually, it came to a time that we met with this donor.  She was an amazing woman to be doing was she was doing and what she planned to do in the future in helping people to achieve their dreams of motherhood.  I'm really glad to have met her.  But, she wasn't the right fit for us.

In the meantime, after all that happened, we lost the chance to meet the third donor.

The third donor

She had also come to the clinic through another patient.  This patient then became naturally pregnant!
Once again, this donor wanted to donate to others.
In this case, though, the patient was more than happy for her to do so.  They waited until she was safe into her pregnancy and then all was good for the donor to help another couple.

However, because we were meeting with the first donor, the clinic linked her up with a different couple and we missed out.  I should mention here, that at this stage, we were first on the list to be connected with the donors.

I was so disappointed.  "We should have met with the first donor earlier, then we would have known"  blah blah...  you get the idea!

The next day, the clinic called.

Another lady had just been cleared to donate.  Would we like to meet her?  Yes yes please!!!

The fourth and final donor

Everything worked out as it should.  This lady is awesome.  She has also been through the IVF process with the same doctor as we did.  She has gone through the same trials and tribulations.  She had the same OB with the one pregnancy that went passed 8 weeks and then she had the same heartache when they lost that baby at 12 weeks.

Our stories are so similar.  We all get along so well including the hubbies.  We have the same feelings about how we would like things to be should we be successful.  It is a good fit.

Now, she has a beautiful little boy and two baby twin boys.

And she wants to give other couple the same chances that she had to become parents.

We have started the process.  We have both had our first appointments and things will slowly progress.
We are nervous, worried and excited at the same time!
We are taking each step as it comes.


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